As the New Year comes upon us, many of us are busy renewing gym memberships, setting up new savings plans, convincing ourselves that taking out all the carbs, gluten, sugar and alcohol from our diet at the same time is actually a reasonable solution to lose those ten pesky pounds and maintain it throughout the year. Yet by the first week of February, all bets are off. As we walk to the front door to greet the mailman, who is delivering the new shoes we ordered, while savoring a delicious hot Krispy Kreme doughnut, one notices the bill from the gym we only went to twice in the last 30 days. As we wipe the sugar from the corner of our mouths, we stop and ask what is wrong with me?? Why is my life so hard?
The good news is there is nothing wrong with you! You are not broken nor are you powerless over your life. You are just missing the most important ingredient to change. You must get to know YOU first.
The only way to change our external lives is to shift on the INSIDE. In order to change anything, we must take the time to know ourselves in the most transparent, honest way possible. What do you really want? Do you believe you deserve what you say you want? And what are you willing to give up to have it?
I challenge you to try something different. I challenge you to begin journaling about what you most desire. Be clear. Be concise. Explain why it is important in your life. If you have attempted to do this before, ask yourself why you have failed to keep the commitment to yourself that you deem so important. Use the journal to dig deep. Challenge yourself to sit in the discomfort of what may come up for you. Your ego will show up as resistance, it will tell you not to push any further. What you may come to realize is the honest answers are masked under a lot of deflections, excuses, and habits that no longer serve you. That’s the sign that you are in the exact right place! Keep at it! This, my friend, may be the most important question we will ever get to answer.
What do you want? And are you deserving of having it? Let’s have a REAL conversation. Let’s talk about it!